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December 21, 2004
Make Her Want You & More
What should a guy do when he meets a girl he really likes and wants to have a relationship with her?
Well first of all, pause. Take deep breaths. Sit in the lotus position or something.
Here's the formula for making a girl want to be with you:
Great Experiences + Missing You
Got it?
When you're with her, make it enjoyable. Don't put any kind of weird emotional pressure on her.
Don't ask: "Do you think you could be with someone like me in a long-term relationship?" Don't cling. Don't call her all the time.
When you do spend time with her, make sure you and she are having a great time.
And then, end every interaction with her while it's on an up note, and just a little bit too soon. Like a great movie, end it at a "climax."
And as you've heard me say before, give her the gift of missing you.
Stay on the right track by playing it cool. Don't forget to add fun, excitement, and mystery to the equation.
Give her experiences she can't forget, and then give her room to think about you, wonder where you are, and chase you.
How to pick her up if there are other people around and what to do if two women like you...
What should a guy do when he meets a woman he would like to date, but doesn't want to make an "obvious" come-on because there are other people around?
Say what?
He doesn't want to make an "obvious come-on because there are other people around"?
What? Did he want to become her friend and shopping buddy, then two years later spring an "I love you" on her in the middle of the girdle aisle at Macy's?
Or did he miss the part in the previous articles where I said not to hide the fact that you're interested?
Guys really need to grasp the idea that making it obvious that you're not just interested in "friendship" isn't considered bad by women... and that if you try to hide it, you're only shooting yourself in the foot.
Think about what you're asking me.
Guys need to get over what other people think, and get into making things happen regardless of who's watching or listening.
This alone is a trait that creates attraction.
Of course, if you really want to be discreet about it, you could hand her a note that says "I was going to say some funny stuff, but I didn't want anyone to think that I was trying to pick you up. If you couldn't tell, I'm kind of a wuss, but don't let that stop you from calling me later."
In short, the way to prevent this in the future is to be ready for the situation. Plan out what you're going to do next time, and be totally ready when it happens. If you mentally prepare for common situations that you find yourself in, you'll dramatically increase your success.
What should a guy do when two women like him and he doesn't know which one to choose? How can he solve the problem?
Okay, well it doesn't sound like too much of a problem to me. You have two girls that like you, what's the issue?
You're going to have to decide if you'd like:
1- A relationship with one of them.
2- To be single and date both of them.
If you want a relationship, then pick the one you like, and go out with her more than once a week.
If you don't want a relationship right now, then don't see either of them more than about once a week (twice is okay once in a while, but any more than that and a woman will automatically start to go into relationship mode).
There is no problem with more than one woman liking you -- the problem comes if you start being dishonest and not up-front in your dealings with them.
This is a great problem to have, really... as long as you don't screw it up by being a jackass.
By David DeAngelo
Posted by LC at December 21, 2004 04:48 PM
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