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January 03, 2005
Dating Tips For Being Romantic
Romance is at the heart of any dating experience.
If you don't consider yourself romantic then you are wrong. I don't know of anyone on this planet who doesn't have the ability to fall in love. Therefore if you can fall in love, you can be romantic too. Romance is not in the grand gestures , it is in the small details. Women will often say that it is the small things that matter. The small gestures but it is down to both men and women to start being romantic. It is a two-way process and both parties get an immense amount of pleasure from showing they care about someone. Yes we would all love to have a romantic picnic on a deserted Caribbean beach with the person of our dreams but romance begins closer to home with tips such as these:
- Understand what romance means and why it is important and learn what romantic aspects there are to your own character. No one has a heart made of stone, however tough their exterior.
- Understand that romance is not the sole domain of women and that men who are romantic are far more successful when dating
- Romance has nothing whatsoever to do with masculinity. In fact, being romantic can enhance your masculinity and reputation with girls.
- Not all women are naturally romantic either but that doesn't have to be the case.
- The key to being romantic is thoughtfulness. So start being a little less thoughtless and selfish.
- Communicate with your partner on every level and anticipate their desires and needs.
- Look at your partner when they are talking and hold their gaze
- Learn that mood, location, situation and ambience can heighten romance with dramatic effect
- Phone just to say hello, I love you and surprise your partner
- Learn to say, I love you and mean it. Don't say it ever, if you don't mean it
- Send them notes and small cards telling them you are thinking of them
- Be spontaneous and do little deeds that show you are thinking about them
- Start going for walks together, whatever the weather
- Put your partner first, particularly as a surprise with a spontaneous trip away
- Think creatively and plan a surprise weekend away
- Buy flowers any time of the year, nice ones not just roses
- Remember birthdays, anniversaries and landmark days such as the day you first met and plan something
- Listen to the clues your partner gives you, such as things they like and books they read and buy little gifts
- Keep being romantic. In a good relationship, romance never ends
- Compromise. Putting yourself first is not romantic.
- Write him/her a letter and let them know that you love them and you mean it. People send far few letters these days. Use good quality stationery too.
- Watch romantic movies together and invest quality time doing the things you share and both enjoy
- Make cards rather than buying them. It shows thought and inspiration.
- Take your partner on a picnic to the park or beach and prepare in advance without involving them. Initiative illustrates romance nicely
- Don't be a cold fish. Learn how to hug, cuddle and make physical contact. Touching without sex is far more romantic but don't always hug without kissing!
- Kiss your date and learn to appreciate the finer qualities of kissing for its own sake
- Dance together when the occasion arises and show them special attention
- Hold hands and do anything make your partner feel close to you
- Hold and hug your partner in bed, especially after sex
- Talk chat and converse about anything and everything
- Allow your partner to breathe and do separate things to heighten the sense of romance when you are together
- If you don't cook dinner for your date, start learning my friend. A surprise dinner with candles is romantic
- Buy small gifts spontaneously that show great thought in what they enjoy. But not too many otherwise it has the opposite effect
- Remember that romance is often about giving of yourself, even if it is simply your precious time when you could have had other plans. Making your partner a priority is vital
- Do things that make you both laugh. Laughter and romance go hand in hand
- Remember that romance is in the small details and does not need to be expensive in any way. I'd rather receive a handmade card any day than an expensive gift
- Anticipate your partner's wishes and desires to show them you are listening to them and that you care
- Expect rightfully that romance is a two-way process though the romance you provide is simply giving of yourself
by Ian McNeice
Posted by LC at January 3, 2005 09:33 AM
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