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June 18, 2004

It's No Big Deal...

By Swinggcat- author of Real World Seduction

Hey guys,

If you have been following my newsletters you probably have noticed that I have been revealing some big pieces to the puzzle on generating ATTRACTION in women. Today I am going to share with you something that most guys - even guys who are good with women - don't consciously know. Knowing this secret could very well sky rocket your success with women.

Before moving on to this secret, I am going to review some basics. As you probably know if you have read my book and been reading my newsletters, ATTRACTION is not what women prefer. The collective female prefers a baby faced, tall muscular man, blessed with a monster sized sausage and a tongue with a gifted touch. Why do you think boy bands rake in so much cash? Hello!! - this is what women prefer. This, however, is not what ATTRACTION is.

ATTRACTION is what you do to a woman's mind and body. The “body” part is creating the emotion inside her of wanting and reaching for more of you, which in my book I call PRIZING. The “mind” part is you establishing that you are the PRIZE to be won over, which in my book I call PRIZABILITY.

Before you can start PRIZING a woman - generating inside her the emotion of wanting, reaching, and chasing for more of you - you must establish PRIZABILITY.

A powerful method for establishing PRIZABILITY with a woman is conveying that you are of slightly higher perceived value than her. Higher perceived value means: her believing that she has more to gain from you than you do from her. Am I saying that you should establish this through promising expensive gifts and buying her lots of overpriced drinks? No!! Doing this would only establish that you are her human ATM machine. Bad thing!

Am I suggesting that you establish PRIZABILITY by treating her like a jerk? Not at all!

Establishing higher perceived value is about you conveying to her that she has more to gain from you than you do from her because of who you are.

Establishing PRIZABILITY - establishing that you are the PRIZE - sets the groundwork for generating ATTRACTION with a woman. If you currently are not as good as you could be at establishing PRIZABILITY you need to get my book today. By not having mastered this skill, you are cheating yourself out of a lot of success with women. My book goes into painstaking detail on exactly what steps you need to take to consistently establish PRIZABILITY with women. Start mastering the art of PRIZABILITY now by getting my book:

http://www.realworldseduction.com

Another key concept for generating massive ATTRACTION with women is having a strong intent. Having a strong intent is having the DESIRE and the WILL to do what needs to be done to achieve a particular outcome, coupled with the unwavering belief that you will achieve this intended outcome.

If a person has the DESIRE and the WILL to do what needs to be done to succeed with a woman but does not have the BELIEF that he can, he will come across as needy. If you do not yet have a strong intent, reread my article “Demystifying Charisma,” and reread the chapter in my book on beliefs.

Okay, we got the basics out of the way. Now for the secret most guys DON'T KNOW. But first, I am going to tell you how I discovered this secret. Around three years ago while hanging out at a bookstore I met a woman lumbered with one of the most spectacular bodies I have ever seen. She, furthermore, happened to be bisexual and into having threesomes!! Her and I really hit it off, and ended up having sex in the bookstore's parking lot. Afterwards, I tried coaxing her into having a threesome with me. She, alas, resisted. This frustrated me and I sought advice. One guy gave me some golden advice.

To paraphrase his words, “One of the worst things you can do when trying to get a woman to have a threesome with you is ASSUMING that it is a big deal. Instead assume it is NO BIG DEAL, and a lot of fun. Pitch the idea to her the same way, for example, you would suggest that it would be fun for the two of you to get ice cream.”

These words apply to more than having threesomes with women. Whatever your intended outcome with a woman is - whether it is, for example, getting her number, getting her to go on a date with you, or getting her back to your house - ASSUME IT'S NO BIG DEAL, and a lot of fun.

Women are like professional psychics when it comes to picking up on when MEN ASSUME that something is a big deal. Even if we don't explicitly communicate that we think something is a big deal, women somehow always intuitively know. I have a female friend of mine who told me that she always knows when a guy is scared to kiss her. “When a man thinks it is a big deal to kiss a girl he unconsciously displays all sorts of nervous and indecisive body movements conveying his fear,” she told me.

Assuming that something is a big deal can stifle your chances of achieving your intended outcome in two ways.

One is that by doing this you are lowering your perceived value in her eyes. She will stop seeing you as a PRIZE to be won over. When you ASSUME, for example, that it is a really big deal to ask for a girl's number, it conveys to her that she is of higher of value than you. By doing this you are, unknowingly, ESTABLISHING that she is the PRIZE to be won over, not you.

Two is that when women intuit you assuming that something is a big deal, they begin to believe it is a big deal as well. How women feel about doing something with you is oftentimes a mirror image of how you feel about doing something with them. If you are nervous, they will become nervous too. If you, for example, ASSUME getting a woman to go out with you is a big deal, she will pick up on your nervous energy and feel the same way.

When you, however, ASSUME that achieving your intended outcome with a woman is NO BIG DEAL, your perceived value in her eyes will increase. Furthermore, ASSUMING that your intended outcome is NO BIG DEAL will often times put a woman at ease making her assume that your intended outcome is no big deal. When you have perceived value in a woman's eyes and she construes your intended outcome as no big deal, it makes it very easy to get what you want.

There have been women I have slept with after only knowing them for a short amount of time - in some cases, as short as twenty five minutes! I was able to do this because I ASSUMED it was no big deal, and a lot of fun.

Also, if a woman puts up resistance when trying to kiss her, DON'T become distraught. Instead, keep your composure by ASSUMING it to be no big deal. Then, try again a few minutes later using my physical push-push technique from my book.

Of course having the mindset that achieving your intended outcome is no big deal is easier to achieve if you have the skill sets for both establishing yourself as the PRIZE and creating the emotion inside a woman of her wanting, reaching, chasing for more of you. As far as I know, my book is the only available material that goes into extreme depth, breaking down these skill sets into a step-by-step easy to learn system. Start living the life you deserve by picking up a copy of Real World Seduction today:

http://www.realworldseduction.com

P.S., I decided to give my webpage a facelift. So, even if you already have my book, come visit me and tell me what you think of the new look.

http://www.realworldseduction.com

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Swinggcat responding to emails:

Comment:

Hey, thanks for the ebook...and I'm f***ing serious. I'm loving what you have to say in your book man. $40 was well worth it and I'm only on the beliefs section. I've been going about figuring this stuff out on my own for years and have definitely started formulating the ideas that you're talking about in the book but you have just fucking put it all out there crystal clear. Thanks.

J from NY

My response:

Thanks man! If you are finding my book useful, then you will definitely enjoy some of the products I will be releasing in the near future. This stuff is going to be the next level. Once again, thanks for the praise.

Question:

I would like to go out with this chick but I have a problem. I know her too much from her family and her current boyfriend, etc. so even if I make a move on her she just takes it in a friendly way now I'm confused coz I love her and I don't wanna let go.

B from South Africa

My response:

By you putting all of your focus of attention on this one special girl, my friend, you are putting a lot of importance on your intended outcome. Most likely this mindset will push her away from you. Putting this much importance on a girl you have not even slept with will lower your perceived value. Put in other words, she will not see you as the PRIZE. And as you know if you have read my book, women are ATTRACTED to men who are the PRIZE. Your best chance of ATTRACTING her is for you to stop making her your world. Go out and live your life. I don't believe there is only one ideal person for us; I think there are many. I know, however, when we really like someone it can feel that way - I've been there before. If you go out and start meeting other women, you will open yourself up to all sorts of wonderful opportunities. Not only will you be a happier person for doing this, but you will stop appearing so needy to this girl.

Comment:

I have to say that I have been applying some of your techniques - mainly cold readings and chicks love this. So much so that I was invited to the home of one hottie simply after doing a cold reading - I told her "you seem like a woman at a crossroads in life, there is a part of you that wants and needs to let go, yet you know that it has to be with the right person." It works like magic. I had an msn thread that I was going to send you but I lost where I was doing this to this one hottie and she was literally melting with desire. The push pull technique also works extremely well. Good work man

M from Canada

My response:

Awesome man. I think cold reading is a great way of establishing PRIZABILITY with a woman. This sets the groundwork for PRIZING: generating the emotion inside a woman of wanting, reaching, and chasing for more of you. Good job.

Question:

Hi

I would like to ask you how to make a chick to be attracted. How can I get her address and phone number in 3 min? What can I talk to her about? What should and shouldn't I say?

Igor from Chicago

My response:

I am not getting the impression you have read Real World Seduction, my man! Do yourself a favor and pick up a copy.

http://www.realworldseduction.com

Comments:

Man, I've been absorbing attraction information for the past 12months, reading and listening to everything that's available on the net, and nobody, f***ing NOBODY - explained this sh*t so divinely as you did.

I'm referring to STEP 1 'Defining the meta frame'

I felt it on the inside, this shift, this huge fucking shift and it drew up this visual in my mind, and I saw it all so clearly. And suddenly I get this stuff so much deeper now

Thank you.

D from United Kingdom

My Response:

Right on man! I know from experience that when a person begins having clarity and understanding of the skills needed to ATTRACT women, his confidence and success skyrocket. If you do not yet have the clarity and understanding of the skills needed to generate massive ATTRACTION in women, allowing you to harbor the confidence and experience the success only a handful of men have, pick up a copy of my book today.

http://www.realworldseduction.com

'Till next time,

Swinggcat

P.S.-If you have a success story you would like to share, or a question you would like to ask, or a comment you would like to make, please email me at:

swinggcat@realworldseduction.com

Include the fist initial of your first and last name. And include the country, state/province, and city you live in.

This whole "learning" thing goes both ways, you know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit "reply" to this email, because I won't get it!

Thanks!

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Copyright 2004 Superior Living Inc. All rights reserved.
Swinggcat and RealWorldSeduction are trademarks of Superior Living Inc.

Posted by LC at 05:08 PM

Radical Honesty…

By Swinggcat- author of Real World Seduction

Hey guys,

For the last couple of weeks I have had the pleasure of teaching my step-by-step system for ATTRACTING women to a few select guys. With every one of these guys there was the same thing missing. This one thing, however, is something that every guy who is incredible with women has. Being privy to this one secret can distinguish the magnetic Casanova from the floundering Waldo.

Before getting into the nitty-gritty of “What this secret is?” I’m going to review some basics.

As those of you who have read my book know, ATTRACTION is not what a woman prefers. Women prefer model-esque looking men on the wake of manhood, who are lumbered with bank accounts analogous to Bill Gate’s, elephant sized penises, and tongues that have the stamina of world class boxers. If this is what attraction was, most of the male population would not be getting laid. The collective male sex drive would be so deprived that the world’s petroleum source would be exhausted within the next year.

ATTRACTION, however, is what you do to a woman’s mind and body. The “body” part is creating the emotion inside her of wanting and reaching for more of you. The “mind” part is you defining the underlying meaning of the interaction between the both of you as you being the one who is the PRIZE.

Often times ATTRACTION starts on the periphery of consciousness. At first the person feeling ATTRACTION towards another is barely even aware of it. Unknowingly, the person begins to reach and want for more of the person they are attracted to.

A caveat: I am not talking about judging a person as ATTRACTIVE – for example, thinking, “Wow…that girl is really hot!” This is not ATTRACTION. ATTRACTION is when a person – psychically or physically or both – begins to reach and want for more of another person. Some examples of this would be: leaning into another person who is leaning away from you, or trying to impress someone to get their validation.

Am I saying that you should never be attracted to a woman? No! – that would make you gayer than my flaming gay hairdresser who – “even he!” – is occasionally attracted to women. Being attracted to others is a normal part of our biological hardwiring. Letting a woman, however, become attracted to you first and letting her always be a little bit more attracted to you than you are to her, allows you to be the PRIZE in the interaction. As those of you who have read my book know, always defining the underlying meaning of your interactions with a woman as you being the PRIZE creates a space for her to continuously become more and more ATTRACTED to you.

Okay, so now for the big secret that distinguishes guys who get more women than rock stars from guys who only have one woman in their life – good old Rosy Palm!

Do you want to know the secret? If your answer was “yes,” that’s really gross because it means you’re ATTRACTED to me.

Okay okay already! – I’ll tell you the secret so you’ll stop being so attracted to me.

Guys who are really good with women are acutely aware of when a woman creates the emotion in them of wanting and reaching for more of her. Because they are aware of this, they can consciously stop themselves from wanting and reaching for a woman (Remember: if you are not conscious of it, then you do not have the control to stop yourself from doing it).

Being aware of this, furthermore, opens guys up to noticing what women do to trigger men to feel the emotion of wanting and reaching for more of them. Women are naturally seductive, men are not. Guys who are awesome at attracting women learned how to do this by paying close attention to how women triggered attraction in them, and then started using these very strategies back on women. All of my strategies for generating attraction in women, for example, are based on the strategies women used to trigger me to feel ATTRACTION towards them.

Most men, however, let their ego and pride cloud them from objectively seeing when a woman is generating attraction in them. Most men have a hard time admitting when they are, for example, acting needy towards a woman or trying to win her approval or letting her disrespect them or only listening to her blab on about something that does not interest them in hopes that she will sleep with them…or whatever.

Learn to be RADICALLY HONEST with yourself when a woman triggers the emotion in you of wanting and reaching for more of her. This will enable you to develop at a rapid pace and start becoming aware of elements of human psychology that most people are oblivious to. Many of the tools in my book will help you do this. My book is probably the only material that exists next to real life experience that will help you notice when women are triggering you to feel ATTRACTION for them. Come check it out: http://www.realworldseduction.com

I am going to share another secret with you that will enable you to generate a special form of ATTRACTION with every woman you encounter for the rest of your life.

A few weeks ago, I saw “Mean Girls,” a movie about high school cliques, popularity, and mind games girls play. In the movie one of the girls demonstrates RADICAL HONESTY when she says, “Just because you hate someone doesn’t mean you don’t want them to like you.” These words really hit home for me. If I am really honest with myself, I can think of a few times when there were women I consciously couldn’t stand, yet did all sorts of subtle things to try and get them to like me. And trying to get a woman to like you is a manifestation of having the emotion of wanting and reaching for more of her. So, unknowingly, I was actually ATTRACTED to some of these women who consciously repulsed me.

So what is the lesson to be learned?

DON’T do things to try and win over women who have personalities that rhyme with witch.

Furthermore, just because a girl tells you that she can’t stand you, doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want you to like her. And her trying to get you to like her is a manifestation of her wanting and reaching for more of you. Put in other words, she’s ATTRACTED to you.

The interesting thing is this: Most women want you to like them. And because of this, most women, on some level, already are ATTRACTED to you. Most women stop being attracted to a guy because he lets her know too early in the interaction that he likes her. By not being so apt to let her know that you like her, she’ll try and get you to like her – she’ll reach for and want you to like her. And this, my friends, is a form of ATTRACTION. In my book I go into depth on how to recognize when women do things to get us to like them, and how to use this to generate MASSIVE ATTRACTION in women. So, if you are ready to learn these secrets and start having incredible success with women by using my massively field tested step-by-step system for ATTRACTING women, pick up my book today. But only do so if you really are ready to start succeeding with women. If you aren’t, that’s fine. My book, however, is strictly designed for people who are ready to succeed. Don’t start reading my book if you’re not ready to start living your dream life with women. If, however, you are ready – and I don’t care what level you’re at! - start using my down to earth system and you will make progress – guaranteed! So, take a giant step towards achieving MASSIVE SUCCESS in this area of your life by clicking on the link below.

http://www.realworldseduction.com

'Till next time,

Swinggcat

P.S.-If you have a success story you would like to share, or a question you would like to ask, or a comment you would like to make, please email me at swinggcat@realworldseduction.com

Include the fist initial of your first and last name. And include the country, state/province, and city you live in.

This whole "learning" thing goes both ways, you know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit "reply" to this email, because I won't get it! Thanks!

Copyright 2004 Superior Living Inc. All rights reserved. Swinggcat and RealWorldSeduction are trademarks of Superior Living Inc.

Posted by LC at 04:54 PM